Loneliness isn't how many people are around you. It's a gap.
The gap between the relationships you need and the relationships you have. LonelyMeter measures it across six areas of your life and shows where it's widest.
You have an unfinished measurement from .
What we measure, and why
The World Health Organization separates loneliness (the feeling that your relationships don't match what you need) from social isolation (objectively having few contacts). You can be surrounded by people and still lonely; you can live alone and be content. So we ask about both.
- Feeling – how often you feel disconnected from people.
- Need × reality gap – in six areas, each on its own: a confidant, friends, a partner, family, community, physical closeness.
- Isolation – how much real contact you have in an ordinary week.
- Direction – whether it's getting better or worse.
The short result is free: a number from 0 to 100, its three components, and the shape of your six gaps. A full analysis (where the gap is widest, why, and what to do first) is available as a separate paid service for £6.99; the option appears at the end of your result. The methodology explains exactly how the score is calculated; it's a guide, not a diagnostic tool.
Measurement
How it feels
Think about the last two weeks. This measurement is for adults aged 18 and over.
The need × reality gap
For each area, set two values: how much closeness you'd need right now (0 = none, 10 = a lot) and how much you actually have. This isn't a comparison with other people, only with your own need. Move every slider at least once, even if it should stay in the middle.
How much contact you actually have
An ordinary week, not an unusual one.
Which way it's going
Last three questions.
Your gap
How did we get this number?
Your areas, ranked by gap
Before anything else
A number this high usually means it has been hard for a while. If life feels heavy, talk to someone you trust, or to your GP. In the UK and Ireland, Samaritans are there any time on 116 123, free. Elsewhere, findahelpline.com lists free, confidential support by country. The rest of this page can wait.
The number told you how much. Not where, or why.
Your answers say more than fits in a short result. The full analysis includes:
- which area your gap is widest in, and why there,
- a breakdown of every area where something is missing: what it most likely means and what isn't working,
- one concrete first step and a four-week plan,
- what your situation changes (how long it's lasted, which way it's going, what happened),
- when it makes sense to look for support from someone else.
The link to your analysis stays yours; open it whenever you like.
LonelyMeter is not a diagnostic tool and doesn't replace talking to a professional. The number describes where you are right now, not who you are. If life has felt hard for a long time, talk to someone you trust, or to your GP or a therapist. In the UK and Ireland, Samaritans are available any time on 116 123. Elsewhere, findahelpline.com lists free, confidential support by country.